Tuesday, March 18, 2008
I would much rather be an only child than have six brothers and sisters!
Advantages and disadvantages.
Advantages - parents can spend well in upbringing better food, clothing and education. Parents too can attend on the child. Bring him/her upon a particular fashion.
Disadvantages - loneliness , petted and spoiled loses the companionship - many human qualities cannot find expression - can't be healthy growth , can't understand the value of give and take - can't understand the importance of living for others - Better to have one or two brothers and/or sister.
It is entirely correct to say that being the only child would be better than having brothers and sisters. Being an only child has it plus points as well as minus points, in other words advantages and disadvantages.
Let us look at the advantages first. The parents can spend well in the upbringing of the child. The child can be provided with better food, nutritious and well balanced which may not be possible in a big family. The child can have fruits and drinks, and nice things to eat like biscuits and so on. The child can have better and a variety of clothings. Even good materials can be got for his/her clothing and new fashions can be indulged in.
Besides these the child can enjoy good education. He/she can be sent to a good school from the beginning because the parent can afford to meet the expenses. Good education means good books, good teachers and good tools. For instance where there are many children an average parent cannot find means to provide even a good atlas , instrument box and so on. Picture books and story books will have become out of the question . Because of better attention to his/her education, the only child can hope to reach high rungs of the leader provided, of course, he/she has the brains.
Another signal advantage is the parent can attend on the child personally. This will help the parent to share the child in a fashion he/she likes. Barring,petting and pampering, the parent can be helpful in the mental and intellectual growth of the child. There can be an intimacy which will help in later years .
There are also disadvantages in being an only child. The child will feel lonely, companion-less and none to share his/her joys and sorrows. The parent cannot take the place of a brother or sister because of the age gap. Because he/she is the only child he/she may be petted and pampered and so he/she will easily become a spoilt child. He/she will develop more negative qualities like selfishness, pettiness and obstinacy. He/she won't have the opportunity to develop many human qualities. Love, affection, kindness, sympathy, appreciation and many such qualities cannot easily develop in an only child. For the chances for development of these qualities will be far and few between. Then again there will be a few opportunities to give expression to those qualities. When they are not developed, he/she can't have a healthy growth and he cannot become well rounded personality. He/she cannot understand the value of give and take which is very important in life. He/she will become so selfish that he/she would like to have everything for himself/herself. He/she cannot understand the importance of living for others.
In a corporate society each member has to live with others, means adjustments and a lot of give and take . A big rope is after all a combination of many straws and its strength depends on how well it has been twisted. So too unless the society is made up of well seasoned members, it cannot stand the onslaught of bad powers. So the lonely child with many a minus point to his/her account cannot easily fit in. So weighing all these considerations, I would like to have brothers and sisters, not oo many for the matter of that, rather than be a lonely child.
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